“Aren't you suppose to lead by example?” Those were the words my 15 year old son recently asked me. I have the pleasure of teaching my son Jaylen how to drive - sad but true I know. A Freshman, now in High School, who once sat in the backseat, middle seat might I add, Jaylen is now taking ownership of the driver seat. His question didn't just catch me off guard, it convicted me. What started out as instructions on driving lead me to ponder, what areas of my life has Jaylen witnessed me not setting a good example?
Have I set a good example where Jaylen sees me being a devoted steward over what God has entrusted me with? My home. Job. Finances. My time with God. The book of Proverbs, written by Solomon, is filled with immense wisdom such as: friendship, money, parenting, trusting the Lord - the list is endless. Proverbs 22:6 instructs us to "start a youth out on his way, even when he grows old he will not depart from it.” It's in this verse that I ask myself what ways have I started Jaylen upon. What has Jaylen witnessed me doing where I'm not leading by example?
Thank God for showing me how a thought-provoking question encouraged me to do self reflection on setting a good example for my son. “Only a fool despises a parent's discipline; whoever learns from correction is wise"(Proverbs 15:5). God tells us if we follow His instruction we will be wise. Correction from our Father is often times difficult to accept and if we’re honest, correction from God is often times unwelcome. Yet God disciplines those He loves. I challenge you the next time you’re convicted with a hard question Ask yourself what is God trying to show you. How is God trying to convict you. How is God trying to grow you. I’ve been compelled to ask myself: what areas of my life do I set Godly examples when encouraging others? Can others see God in me?
Heavenly Father, I thank you for Your word. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to parent Jaylen. Thank you for your Holy Spirit, and the conviction it brings when I'm not setting a positive example for Jaylen. Continue to show me areas in my life where I need you the most: being patient as a parent & obedient to your word. May your words grow deep within me, instructing me and Jaylen as we live a life pleasing to you. May we never become fools despising your instruction but keeping your instruction close to our hearts. In Jesus name. Amen