Updated: Nov 17, 2019
I think we can all say that at some point in our lives we’ve felt insecure and experienced some level of low self-esteem, especially in our youth. But as I continue to reflect on myself on my “journey to beauty” I can acknowledge that as an adult I’d say I didn’t have low self-esteem but my actions and some of the things I accepted wouldn’t coincide with my words. I take it as another life lesson, I’m forever a student and self reflection is my study hall.
I’ve grown to understand what emotional dependency is and how I’ve cared for people more than I’ve cared for myself and allowed their actions to dictate my own emotional state. I’ve shown love expecting the same love to be shown to me but the results were disappointing. I’ve been the “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” type, giving more of myself than what’s deserved. Life has taught me the value of guarding my heart and that doing so requires taking an active stance to set healthy boundaries to protect myself and others. Guarding your heart is taking responsibility for what you will allow to affect your psyche. Guarding your heart is having more love for yourself than you have hope for a desired outcome or love for someone else. Guarding your heart is self-love. Life lesson... I love Me more.
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
- Proverbs 4:23
Points to ponder:
What you want matters! Know and honor your values!
Sometimes "no" is the right answer and it's ok with or without an explanation.
You don't have to be everyone's best friend, you're still a good person.
Check your investments, there should always be a positive return. Don’t invest in people or things that don’t add value to your life… period. There is no honor for the martyr.
Peace, Love, & Blessings!